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Here’s a hint: women lie just like men do. Are you surprised? You shouldn’t be. We cannot stand passively by while the stereotype is strengthened that men are liars. Yes, sometimes we do lie but you can’t reasonably think that the near 50% of marriages that end in divorce are our entire fault. The divorce rate is currently in decline, but so is the marriage rate.

Whether you are married, in a serious relationship, dating or just meeting a girl at a bar there are a couple easy ways to tell if she is being truthful. Let’s look at what her eye movements say about her thought process.

If you are dating someone seriously or married, your woman might have habits that you haven’t yet noticed or picked up on. Some women will stare at you directly if they are lying because they think that is what they should be doing. This might the case for you but a vast majority of women do not think this way.

I would like to start by saying this is all situational and if you suspect she is lying, investigate further. The direction of the eye movement I am speaking of is from their perspective, not yours. So up and to her left exactly what it means (up and visually to your right).

Straight Ahead

This direction can associated with accessing a visual memory. So when asking to describe where she was last night, she may be telling the truth if the she stares at you while speaking with her eyes unmoving. Or she could be telling a lie-tricky I know. You need to take other things into consideration such as tone of voice and body language. As I stated before some women will stare at you when lying just because they think that is the best thing to do.

Down and to her right

This direction indicates a touch, feeling, taste or smell sensory perception memory that has occurred. For example if a woman says, “She smelled like a sweaty pig” and looks down and to her right, she is most likely recalling a smell from memory that actually occurred.

Down and to her left

This direction indicates auditory dialog internally with themselves. For example if you are arguing with a woman and she looks in this direction while you are speaking, she might be constructing a counter argument in her head and saying it to herself to see how it sounds, internally.

Up and to her right

This indicates a visually constructed image. If you ask her to imagine she is on a desert island, this is the direction she would look when she is constructing images in her mind that have not actually occurred. So you may say, “Where did you go last night?” If she looks in this direction she is most likely constructing a thought that did not actually occur; hence, she could be lying.

Up and to her left

This direction indicates a visually remembered image. So if you ask her, “what color is your car?” this direction will indicate that she is visually remembering an image of the color in her mind. When applied to questioning the truthfulness of who your woman was with last night, this direction indicates she is most likely telling the truth because she is visually recalling the person in her mind.

To her right

This direction indicates an auditory constructed thought. Have you ever heard women gossip and tell lies about another man or woman out of jealousy? If for example she says “I heard Caitlin tell Alexandra that your hair is gross” and she looks to her right, she may be constructing an auditory thought that never occurred.

To her left

This direction indicates an auditory remembered thought. As applied in the same situation as above, if she looks in this direction she is most likely telling the truth because she will be recalling and auditory memory that actually occurred.

Be sure you are keeping a close eye and ear on body language and tone of voice. If you can combine visual eye movement cues, her body language and tone of voice you will be a human polygraph machine.